End It: Rejection
The “End It Movement” is a worldwide campaign to see the end of human slavery and sex trafficking. Over the years, their effectiveness and influence has grown to a global scale, shining a bright light on modern slavery.
There’s no hesitation that San Francisco Adult and Teen Challenge stands with Freedom United and the End it Movement. As addicts, we understand slavery. While slave and slave owner are the same in addiction, it ultimately robs you of your freedom. You are robbed of healthy relationships, a steady career, emotional stability and a hope for a future. The vision of SFATC is first and foremost to help rescue men and break the bonds of slavery to addiction. And if there is one thing nearly every addict faces in their lives it’s the bondage of rejection.
In this American culture, acceptance is about as valuable as any currency. In social media, acceptance means likes and followers. In politics, they even have “approval ratings” to determine the value of the candidate or politician. The addiction of approval is the root of much of our societal problems. We absolutely crave it. Many people spend their lives searching for identity, purpose and worth. Yet, the majority of us would painfully admit to a daily battle with rejection.
Addictions are usually just the fruit on the tree of rejection. Over the course of an addict’s life, s/he was either told or allowed themselves to believe they had no value. And, as you are robbed of your value, the next thing to drain is your purpose.
Without it, there begins to develop a massive gap, a fog, between where you are now and the future. It almost seems there is nothing to connect the two together. That is a very scary place to be.
Feeling rejected, alone, unwanted, constantly disappointed and hurt, you do the most harmful thing you can: isolate yourself. In order to cope with the now, the present, you turn to anything that will excite or numb. This is where addiction is created. Whether it’s sex, drugs, alcohol or whatever the vice, you rely on it for an escape. And soon enough you become dependent on it. It all started with a simple need to feel loved, to feel accepted.
Think of it this way: if you owned a 1994 Toyota Corolla, chances are, you wouldn’t think too highly of it. As time progresses, that car would look more like a trash can, full of empty Starbucks cups and take-out bags. But trade that car in for a 2019 Audi Q7 and everything changes. You now incorporate weekly car washes to your routine. There’s never a speck of dust on your dashboard (thanks to the Armor All wipes you have on deck). And now you're actually excited to have friends ride along with you. So, what changed?
The difference between the destructive battle of disapproval and a life full of hope and joy is the value you place on yourself.
We need to dig deep and pull out the roots. Once you begin to transform your mind into a belief that you are worthy of a healthy, fulfilling life, you will rob yourself of it. Consider the words of Jeremiah: "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'” (Jer. 29:11).
It’s time we end rejection.
God’s divine will for everyone is a hope and a future. Beyond that, because of what was done for us on the cross, we are made perfect and whole in Jesus. Our value is now royalty. “Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of himself” (Phil. 2:5 MSG). And just like that Audi, the way you view yourself changes dramatically. You begin to develop healthy, pure patterns. Because your value ultimately determines your outcome.
If you or a loved one suffer from addiction or life-controlling issues, San Francisco Adult & Teen Challenge may be an option for you. Call us today at 415-285-1353 for more information.